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[00:00:00] Welcome back to The Woman of Wellness Podcast. We have a great guest today, Delaine Benson. We're going to be talking all about stress, overwhelm and how to manage it. So let's just jump right in. Delaine, will you please introduce yourself to us, tell you, tell us maybe why you do what you do and and what you do.
I would love to, so I am a registered nurse. I am also a breathwork facilitator and my specialty is helping women through midlife overwhelm. And the whole reason I got into this is because I lived it and um, additionally, I. In the, in terms of, I was going through perimenopause, I was having depression, anxiety, um, all these symptoms that I didn't understand.
But I also had a sort of breakdown in my, in my regular life too, that, um, in my job I was getting into a leadership position that was just asking too much of me and I couldn't say no. And then [00:01:00] within my home life, um, it was actually during the pandemic, so I was a nurse. And my job is falling apart in that way too.
And then my dad had two different types of cancer. My husband, um, had PTSD and some traumatic brain injuries, so I was caregiving for him. So as you can tell, it was just layer upon layer upon layer of things. And so it's like these two massive things of. The stress of saying yes to everything, trying to be superwoman, trying to be this like badge of honor of, look how me look at me.
I'm, I can be a great mom, I can be a great wife. I can have all this pressure and I can still get great at my job. Um, it all just started to collapse and then I had perimenopause to figure out too. And so that was just like the final straw. And so that's kind of where I came to this point of realizing.
What a huge impact nervous system regulation has on any woman, but then additionally within midlife, how crucial it is. Because even if you're someone who doesn't have that many symptoms, you're [00:02:00] still going to have all these different pressures of life building up on you because it's almost like the intersection of there's kids potentially graduating or maybe even you still have little ones at home, but then your parents are aging as well.
But then in most people, if they have a career, then that's kind of a part where you're getting into really big leadership positions because you've been there a while. And so all of those things intercept or intersect and then it just makes things very difficult. Yeah. Yeah. So you were able to kind of overcome this, and this is what you're sharing with women.
And I wanna, before we talk about the nervous and regulation and talk about breath work, which is totally new for me, so I'm actually really excited to talk about it. Um. I have to admit, I was Googling perimenopause symptoms the other day, so I'm 37, but I just had a baby a year ago. So it's like very weird for me to connect perimenopause with like birth, because I am in that stage of life where I'm like, wait, I have a little baby.
But also, this is so [00:03:00] interesting. So can you explain to us, you know, as a nurse, what happens to women in midlife? Why does it cause these symptoms like you were mentioning? First of all, maybe tell us what symptoms might we be experiencing as we're approaching this midlife age or perimenopause, which I have heard starts around 37, but I don't know.
Um, and, and, you know, what symptoms could we be looking for, I guess. Um, and you know, this one, I would love to have a really simple, straightforward answer for you. And that's one of the biggest challenges of this space is that, um. There are no simple answers because, and here's the big thing that if, if you don't hear anything else from the midlife portion of this podcast, I want everyone to hear just how important estrogen is.
So when you are in this phase of life, your estrogen is declining and it's. It's [00:04:00] not a just nice slow, gentle decline. Sure. It could be like over a long time period. It could be a, you know, when you view it from that perspective, oh, a um, slow decline. But what it really is on a daily basis is it's on a rollercoaster.
And so you've got. All of your hormones firing at all these different ways it, your body's trying to compensate because it's almost like it doesn't understand what's going on. And so this leads to all these different symptoms because estrogen is a key role al in almost every function of your body. I.
And so as it declines, as your body starts to want it more, need it more, not know what's going on, you can have the most widespread symptoms. And that's one thing that I feel like awareness is just starting to get out there about, but essentially it can be. This, I promise you is not even all of them, but this is some of the big ones that I hear is the emotional states.
So there's [00:05:00] irritability, anxiety, depression, um, those are very common ones to hear. And um, rain, fog, lack of focus. Those are ones that are very sneaky. Um, I can't tell you how many friends I've had that once we start sharing about what's going on with some brain fog we've been having, um, how many of my friends that didn't know they were in perimenopause actually were worried that like they had early Alzheimer's, they had dementia, they had some kind of weird thing going on because they didn't know that that was a perimenopause symptom.
And, um, so yeah, that's some of the. Kind of more mental, emotional, um, your joints are impacted. So there's lots of women I know that have had frozen shoulder. Um, just aches and pains. Personally, I got hip pain and I, I'm a nurse, so I went to an orthopedic surgeon who is my friend, thought they would fix me up and.
And now I know it was perimenopause. I know it was because my estrogen was declining, [00:06:00] that my tendons were weakening, but they didn't even tell me the right thing. They just told me, oh, you know, you just need to get in better shape. Um, you need to exercise more and it's gonna make it hurt for a while. But you know, as you get in better shape, it's gonna help.
And it didn't, as I was trying to exercise more. It just kept hurting more and more and getting worse. And then, um, I actually do, I am on hormone replacement therapy and when I started that, the hip pain went away. And, um, so yeah, I mean, who would, who would think that that would be impacted? And then, um, it can impact your digestion.
It can completely change your gut microbiome. Um, another weird one for me, and this one I still. Haven't fully accepted, but I became lactose intolerant and I'm a cheese person. Like that's my thing. And so to lose that, oh, that has been so difficult. But, um, but yeah, my, my microbiome completely changed and I've done lots of gut health things just to see if it [00:07:00] helped or made a change in that.
And my gut health, I would say. Is really great now after all the things I've done. But it didn't change the lactose intolerant part, which is really interesting. And then, um, your, your bones start to get weaker. Um, your muscle mass starts to decrease. And, um, yeah, it just, it's, it's really wild because it does just every single organ system, every single part of your body gets impacted somehow or can, um, and.
That's not to say that everybody's gonna have horrible symptoms and it's gonna be this big thing. 'cause it's not true. It's, um, I, it's very, it's very difficult to explain like all the different factors that go in, but, um, it can be that you have absolutely no symptoms and then your period stops. And essentially what menopause is, is it's going a year without your period.
That's basically saying your ovaries have officially shut down. You're not releasing eggs, you're not in that whole phase of [00:08:00] life anymore. But perimenopause is the phase before and it can last as long as 10 years. And so that's really what we're talking about here is just, um, yeah, these symptoms might come up.
Somewhere in that phase. And that's not to say that you can't have symptoms after menopause because you can as well. But um, but yeah, the bottom line is you're not, there's no guarantee and it doesn't even mean you're doing things right or doing things wrong if you do have symptoms. Because I have friends that are the absolute picture of health and have been just destroyed by perimenopause symptoms.
And then I have friends that I might rate maybe not as healthy, but. They're kind of flying through it, doing no, having no problems. Um, so it's not something to attach any sort of meaning to the, it's how, it's how you're treating your body. It's how, um, your genetics, your whatever. 'cause it's really not that simple.
And the one final thing to note, um, and I have heard a lot of this in the perimenopause community too, is that [00:09:00] sometimes mothers can be very dismissive of their daughter's symptoms of what's going on with them. They'll say. Oh, you know, well you're going through perimenopause and I didn't have any problems.
I don't remember anything about this. So there is actually some medical-based truth to this that they are realizing that perimenopause symptoms are getting worse in our society. Um, and they think that is highly tied to stress. And then also, um, many of the women, and it's not, this isn't a general statement, but lots of the women of that age who have.
Daughters in perimenopause right now. Were at the age that they were still actively giving hormone therapy during perimenopause. And so the hormone replacement therapy is a whole nother ball game in here that, um, there was a study that was really erroneously quoted, um, misquoted, misread, misinterpreted, and then widespread that made people terrified of hormone [00:10:00] replacement therapy.
And I fully admit I was one of those people. And so what I had to do for my own good was looking at my symptoms and seeing, man, this is serious. Like I'm really starting to have a declined quality of life. And so what I chose to do was, all right, well that being said, and I've tried all these other interventions and they haven't worked, I wanna look into hormone therapy.
And what I found is that it's not for everyone, but it is. It has been vilified very unfairly because one of the things that I learned is how protective it is because if you remember I said estrogen is. Helpful and beneficial to all these different organ systems. Right? Well, if you're continuing to give yourself the estrogen, then it's giving you protective qualities for your bones.
It's giving you protective qualities for your brain. Um, they're actually seeing the link that. Many more women get Alzheimer's and they're starting to link that to, [00:11:00] because we run out of estrogen so much earlier than men, and that's something that is affecting our brains long term. And then it's actually, there's all these rumors that, you know, it's, um, it's not good for your heart, but the studies have shown it's actually cardioprotective.
So by being on hormone replacement therapy, you're helping all of those estrogen receptors in your heart, making it more work, more efficiently. And actually. Benefiting the heart over time. And so that's like the really weird dynamic of all of this is there's just a lot of misinformation and yeah, it's, it's kind of a wild ride to navigate.
Yeah. And I was just thinking if you feel a little crazy, maybe you're not crazy. Maybe something's going on in your body. And so I love that you mentioned that this. There's, there's a couple things at play here. There's some physiological factors happening, right? Your body's hormones are changing, and this is a potentially a season of life where there may be a lot of stress involved as well.
And so let's kind of go down that path a little bit, [00:12:00] um, because you. This is something that we can work on. Right? We can you, you mentioned that per perimenopause can be, um, related or, or exacerbated, I guess with more stressful symptoms. So, um, where, what, where do we start I guess, um, when, here's, here's what I think busyness in our.
Society is worn as a badge of honor. Rightly, you can accomplish very much so. How do we get ourselves to a place mentally and emotionally to slow down and relax? Yeah, I, I fully agree with you. I think that is a, a huge problem within our society and, um. I think it's a kind of a, a tiered approach that we take to it.
Um, the first one being that we just [00:13:00] simply have to start a culture change. Because what I'm seeing, and this, I mean, I can speak from this from personal experience, I can speak from countless clients, friends, everything is that what women have a tendency to do is. We keep that busy state, that constant achievement, um, seeking perfection, just people pleasing all these things.
We keep it going and going and going and going. And then we hit these walls of burnout or overwhelm and I. Things get bad and sometimes we hit them, we hit those walls, just power through, keep going, hit the wall again, power through, go again. And that was really my story. And in the end, it ends badly for you.
And that's just the truth of it. And that's what's so interesting about. Um, the, the work that I've really focused on is, I'm encountering that it happens in midlife more often than not, that your twenties, you power through your thirties, you power through, [00:14:00] but it's starting to slow down and get a little more hard, and then in your forties look out, because that's when for very many, many women, that's where it all kind of comes to a crashing halt.
And, and even within your hormones, as your estrogen declines, you. Really start to almost take a step back from your life and that that viewpoint that you've kept for so long that you have to do everything. You have to be everything to everyone. You start to see holes in that. And so there's the women who see the holes in that, but interpret that as something wrong with them.
Oh, well look at her. She can manage perimenopause and she can manage her kids and she can manage her husband and she can manage her job, but why can't I do it? And that's, that's the wrong perspective to have. Um. What we really should be doing is just going inward and really evaluating what works for us, what do we need?
So when you feel that questioning moment, instead of just [00:15:00] like the answer being powered through, really be like, I need to sit down and look in my life. What do I need to continue to pursue and what do I need to give up? What are things I can take away? Because I think that our society. Is so focused on how to add things, when in reality we should be the exact opposite.
Like, what things am I doing for absolutely no reason whatsoever? And so to tie that really into deep nervous system regulation, I think that women are constantly seeking external validation. And so like with perfectionism, our nervous systems are literally wired to get ramped up because. You so desperately want to be seen as good, and you want to be seen as, um, a, a good person, a good wife, an achiever.
You want all these things. And so your nervous system gets uncomfortable if you're not in the pursuit of that. And then the other thing that's so. Interesting with an [00:16:00] actual perfectionist personality type is that it's not always an external thing. Um, one thing that I encounter a lot is people who say, well, I don't have any anxiety.
And especially if it's a client or I know them personally, and I'll be like, okay, well tell me what's going on in your head right now. Talk to me about worry. Do you worry Very often? And what we discover through talking is that they have. Just all of these wheels turning constantly in their head. Worry, worry, worry, worry.
Thinking about this, what's this person gonna think of me? And going on and on and on. Um, but they don't see themselves as having a nervous system problem or, or anxiety or things like that. And so that's the other thing is that, um, we really need to start getting real about our constant seeking external validation.
And trying to calm and soothe ourselves and learn to love ourselves so that we don't need to be chasing that. Um, and so that. Is one of like the more nuanced, deeper forms of nervous system [00:17:00] regulation, um, that I, I find to be very interesting. And it, and it ties into people pleasing too, of just women are taught to serve.
We're taught to always be the, the, you know, the person that's helpful. Always be the one who's willing to take the kids somewhere to do this, to do that and take on so many responsibilities within the home. But we don't question why are we doing that? We don't question if that's what's best for us, and then we don't question the implications if we continue to live in the way that we're living.
Yeah, you mentioned culture change and I think about, you know, culture as a society. You know, how we as a society of women, but then I also think a culture in our communities and a culture like almost just slowly going smaller culture in our home. How have I. How have I portrayed myself as the woman that does it all?
So everyone expects me to do it all. Right? Right. And then it becomes the culture of myself and maybe recreating that identity a little bit, [00:18:00] which is sounding a little bit like what you're getting to. Um, and it, it got me thinking about the phrase stress management because I think. It's a little bit of a buzz word or a buzz phrase right now where it's like, well, you need some stress management.
And I think of low woman's like, okay, I feel overwhelmed, I feel anxious, and they might say, I need some stress management. And you are coming in and saying, okay, nervous system regulation. Is that the same thing? Explain to us what that is for someone that might recognize. I'm overwhelmed, I'm stressed.
Where does, what is nervous system regulation and how does that look different than quote, stress management? Or is it a form of it? Yeah, they, they are related, I would say. Um, I think that that stress management does tie into nervous system [00:19:00] regulation. Um, specifically nervous system regulation is about.
How your body is responding to all of its external environment. And so that includes your stressors, but that also just includes your way of being and, and what you were just talking about, your culture in your home, your culture and your community. Um, how your relationship with your, you know, anyone in your home and, and, um, your friends, your family.
So the big thing with nervous system regulation is when it's, when your nervous system, which is your brain and your spinal cord, um, and all of your nerves, when it's functioning well, it's a regulatory system that is. It's almost like it's, um, a conductor of an orchestra. It's taking in all of these things that are happening around you and regulating your body to either step up or um, step down into whatever you need in that moment.
So, for example, if [00:20:00] you are, well, let's look at us right now. So we're on a podcast. So my brain saw that I'm going into a situation where I really want to be on my game. And so my heart rate increased some, um, a lot of my, um, blood flow has gone into my vital organs because my body's getting ramped up for like, we've got something to do here.
Now if I was, um, after the podcast, I wanna relax, I wanna celebrate, then my body's gonna recognize, well that stressors gone. So now what we need to focus on is bringing all of the blood flow back into, um, I. Make my bowels, my digestive system, and to help me really relax and help me recover from that more stressful moment that I had.
And so that's what the, the conductor of the orchestra, the nervous system should be doing that for your body at all times, just following the flow, going up, going down, whatever you need. But what I find is that in this modern [00:21:00] society. We are living in this constant state of stress that is telling our bodies.
You just need to be doing the really activated, really, really challenging, um, giving yourself adrenaline, giving yourself cortisol, doing all these things that we need to, um, to make you prepared for. Nothing, it's not preparing you for anything. So it's just constantly shooting off hormones. It's constantly, um, getting your blood flow into inappropriate areas.
It's so, I mean, that's one thing that's really interesting, like if we look at nervous system regulation, if you're chronically in a state of anxiety, in a state of worry. Then your digestion is affected. And I've seen this with so many people that once they start to regulate their nervous systems, then they actually are able to, um, stop having some GI distress that they've had.
So it could be, um, I. Like IB Slike symptoms. I've heard of them going away and I've had some clients that have had that. Um, if you [00:22:00] look at, at weight, like the, the constant stress is bringing on that stress ho hormone, cortisol, and I. This one, I've seen it with clients, but I recently even witnessed it with my husband, is he decided to commit to nervous system regulation for 30 days.
He was going to do daily meditations, um, do some hypnosis and do some things to really get regulated. And he did not change his diet and he lost eight pounds. And so that's what's so interesting about all of this is that like the nervous system. When it is broken, it has all of these widespread impacts on our bodies that we're typically not even aware of.
Um, and, and yes, it's almost like it, it almost perpetuates the stress. So it is, we aren't regulating our stress and our body's making it worse, and it's in this vicious, vicious cycle. Yeah. Okay. I wanna talk about the methods of nervous system regulation, but [00:23:00] before I do, yeah. I just had a question come into my mind.
What if, what if we want to be high achievers? What if we want to have that energy? Like, I don't know if it excites me to hear someone say, you should slow down. You know? So what would you say to someone that's like, well I still wanna, like, I still wanna show up in a big way. Right? How does this fit in? So I think that, I think it is really about.
More than anything, if I say what nervous system regulation has meant for me, what I've accomplished with it, it is that I'm living more intentionally because I'm the same way. I, I like achieving big things. I like to, to look back on the year and reflect and go, whew, look what I did. That's pretty awesome.
However. If we are pushing for the wrong things and we are putting our energy in the wrong places, and our body isn't even working efficiently because our nervous system's so dysregulated, we're just self sabotaging ourselves. And [00:24:00] so that's one thing that really factors in is I. When your body is properly regulated with your nervous system, your brain works better, it's more efficient.
Um, it's not wasting its time and energy on anything and your, your body itself is functioning better because a lot of the people that I work with who say this also, um, they like to do things outdoors. They, or they like athletics, they like things like that. Well, it's also going to improve your athletic performance because.
Your body when you are stressed and when you are tense and when you are just constantly go, go, go, go, go. It is just expending an incredible amount of energy, sometimes even physical energy, um, on all these things that don't matter. And so that's what I love is just now my life is so intentionally built that.
I don't get to the end of the day and go, Ugh, that was so stupid. Why did I just waste all my time and energy on that? And instead it's [00:25:00] days are more fulfilling. I'm accomplishing way more than I ever have before. And one other thing that benefit that comes with regulation is, um, you're just more. You're more deeply aware of any given moment in the day.
So I think that high achieving women just tend to, they have their task list and it's just go, go, go. We're going all the way down it. And one thing that I've started to notice is that, um, and I mean, I guess this does tie into efficiency too, is I would think I was achieving a task. But I'm so checked out of my body in that moment that I'm not, I'm not approaching it in the best way possible.
And so when I was able to start to like pause more in, in the middle of whatever I'm doing and say, whew, am I regulated right now or I'm not, am started to catch more of my tendencies for procrastination, for inefficiency, for, um. [00:26:00] For just making bad decisions even. And so I think that all of that just collectively comes together and helps you make, just make a life that is really worth living and of your dreams.
And that's what, that's what's pretty exciting and fun about it. Yeah, and I think, I love that it gives us some permission to still be those high achievers and still want to accomplish, and it's. It's bringing intentionality, is that the right word? Um, into the things that we do because I know I'm guilty of just doing, trying to do all the things probably just to do them.
I mean, I don't think I intentionally do it that way. Right? I don't say like, I just, I'm gonna do something to do it. But I do find myself like. I don't even know, I don't have validation from any, I don't care about validation from anyone else, but if I did all the things, I am awesome. Right, right. So I, I, [00:27:00] I think that's been a helpful discussion to, to kind of help us understand that there is a need for this, regardless of where you sit on the spectrum of achievement and pleasing and all of that.
So now let's, why don't you just kind of. Tell us what are the methods of nervous system regulation? What are some methods for now that you've convinced us, we need it, right? We're ready for it. What are they? Well, one thing is, it's kind of two part, um, the first part is really building awareness around your nervous system state at any given moment.
And that's one thing that. I think that, and I know that with your, with your ties to, um, to food empowerment and to understanding all of that, you probably understand this too, because when people write down their food, um, and track it, then they realize they eat much worse than they think. Well, similar with nervous system regulation.
When [00:28:00] people track their nervous system, they realize that they're really dysregulated way more often than they think. And so that's one thing that I do, um, really recommend is people just start to find a method to track your nervous system throughout the day. Um, and it can even just be a reflection at the end of the day of sitting down and thinking about some of the things that happened, you know, throughout your day, how did you react?
Because reactivity is a big sign of, of what's actually going on in your nervous system. And then the second phase, in addition to building awareness, you want to actually start to regulate it. And that is, that's something that requires experimentation because I have found that. Um, at least my one thing that, a common trend I've seen with really high achieving women is I say meditation and I get immediate resistance, pushback.
Oh, are you serious? Ah, I tried it. It doesn't work. I can't do it. My [00:29:00] mind wanders all of those things, and I feel you. Same way. Like I felt the same way for so long, and, um. So you have to kind of experiment and see what works best for you. Personally, what helped me was instead of trying to do these silent meditations or ones where there's very little, um, very little interaction with a voice or being guided or anything like that, those didn't help me.
Guided meditations were interesting enough to kind of keep me going. So that's one thing that I started to do. And then over time I started, I. Experimenting with breath work and then that was the thing that was for me, a game changer because breath work still helps you be active. And so for those high achieving women who we don't like to stop, we, we think it's a waste of time to, um, you know, to sit and meditate.
Well, with the breath work, it does feel like you're actually accomplishing something. And so that's one thing that kind of [00:30:00] changed my perspective on that. And so those are two, two routes I think that can be very helpful. Um, and then there are kind of within that same thing, there are some yoga, um, practices like yoga Nira.
And then like a, a restorative yoga class. Those things can be something that kind of helps slow the brain down as well, so that if you are achievement oriented, you can still feel like you've checked something off the, off your list, but um, maybe you just found something that it helps your nervous system and it's also going to be, um, checking off your list.
Yeah. I found yoga nidra a few years ago during a time of my life that was. High stress. I was exhausted and it helped a ton. And, and I did it every day for a long time because I needed it right. And now I just do it a little bit more as needed. Um, it, it supports me. Like if I'm having a really stressful day, it really does help.
And I'm the same way. If you tell me to just go lay down, my nervous system will. [00:31:00] Ramp up. It's like, I will not calm down, but if, if you have like something I can focus my mind on like that, that's really helpful. So I think, um, I think it'd be really fun. I have, we have a newsletter that goes along with the podcast, so I think it'd be good to have a little list of, um, some of those methods that you shared with us of nervous system regulation and maybe you can even share more on that list.
Um, with us, and then I know you're gonna be going, you're gonna be giving us a breath work session in your actual masterclass. So anyone that's listening, if they wanna go through a full breath work session, um, that's gonna be in our women's Wellness hub, um, for her masterclass. But let's, let's just talk to the woman here.
What can they take away from this? What. What can they do right now? You mentioned awareness, which is really helpful. I think tracking and then maybe finding some methods. What, what might be the big takeaway to say, I'm gonna go do this today and it's gonna help my nervous [00:32:00] system? I think that the biggest thing is to just start a daily practice of something and just start that experimenting.
So. It feels really overwhelming if, especially if you're already in overwhelm that to think, oh gosh, I have to commit to like 20 minutes of something. Well, no, that's not what we're saying. We're, I'm saying like five minutes. Just start really, really small. Take that first step of what? What would you For me, I would say.
One of the easiest things I could recommend. Um, and it is a free app. There's Insight Timer. Yes, I have that. I love it. Yeah, it's fabulous. And so I would recommend Download Insight Timer. And a beautiful thing about it is you can pick the time that you have available. And so you get on the app, you say, I have five minutes.
Boom. Done. And then the other thing that's great about that app is that it. It'll also track if you've been showing up every day. So within my insight timer, I have a, um, a little widget that [00:33:00] goes on the front of my, um, home screen, and it shows me if I've done my meditation or breath work or whatever today.
And I find that extremely helpful because again, I'm achievement oriented and I want my little star for the day that yes, I did it. And so I think it's just taking little bitty steps, little bitty changes. That is going to make a big difference. And then the other thing, and this does apply to. Nervous system regulation, but just a little more indirectly is just start looking for those things to subtract from your life.
Because I think that, like I said, our society, everything is, and even here, I'm suggesting, here's one more thing for you to do, but No, like what we need to be spending time on is really being reflective and saying. This does not serve me. Why am I doing it? This feels like I'm just trying to keep up with the Joneses.
Why am I doing it? This is something that my work is asking me to do. That is completely not in my job description. Why am I doing it? And really [00:34:00] just start to have those moments of pause and question. And I think that can also help with your regulation as well, because you're not feeling as overwhelmed because you're not wasting your time and energy on things that don't serve you.
Yeah, I love that. Look for ways to eliminate I, and so, you know. The two words that kind of came up in my mind as you're talking is support, find some support mechanisms. And you mentioned the insight timer that has some of those, like breathing, meditation, anything that can kind of calm. And eliminate, eliminate the sources of additional stress or nervous system, what dysregulation like chaos and that can help as well.
So, um, hopefully that's a really good takeaway for everyone. Um, that's listening. They have very simple start becoming aware of what's. What's causing it? Look for ways to eliminate and then look for a daily practice to help support that. So thank you [00:35:00] so much for sharing your expertise with us. Um, will you tell us more about where we can find you to get more support if we're in that season of life and, and we're, we want more support.
Yes, I would be happy to. So I am on um, Instagram. I'm Delaine Benson Wellness. So that's D-L-A-Y-N-E-B-E-N-S-O-N Wellness and that's probably the most comprehensive place you can find me. And then that exact same wording, Delaine Benson Wellness is my website as well. So www.delainebensonwellness.com. And then I do have, um, a Facebook page in LinkedIn as well.
So I'm pretty easy to find. And then my signature program is the Midlife Overwhelm Solution, and so that is a a program where I take women and I teach them. We start with the basics of nervous system regulation like we're discussing now, but then we eventually start to go into people pleasing perfectionism, overachieving.[00:36:00]
How does that relate to nervous system regulation and how do I make changes to, um, these aspects of my personality to embrace the good parts, but let go of the parts that aren't serving me? Awesome. Well, we'll have all those links in the show notes, um, for people to get support. Thank you so much for sharing your expertise with us today.
I found it really valuable, especially, um, kind of fitting in that stage of life. Um, and I think it's just good for anyone, especially in this. In this world that values achievement. Um, I think it's really nice to say we can still do things that fulfill and feel, um, like that achievement without the overwhelm and without the burnout.
So thank you so much for being here today. You're welcome. Okay, before we jump in, do you need a minute, a break? I think I will take a quick break. Okay. I need some water. I never brought any, so [00:37:00] two minutes, three minutes. We'll be right back and we can jump in. Sounds good. Does that sound good? Yeah. [00:38:00] [00:39:00] Okay.
